Fellowship

Whether to be a bystander or a person who takes action?

Theoretically, a bystander is an individual who is less likely to offer help in an emergency situation. The greater of number of bystanders, the less likely it is that any one of them will help.

I have a good example of this.

I was riding the metro the other afternoon when a guy stood up from his seat, and moved towards a young blond woman. She was sitting on the outside seat. The guy approached her, and asked her if she would move over. She did. So he took the seat and started to talk to her. Unfortunately I couldn't hear what he was saying to her or how she dealt with him. But it was obvious to all that she was not interested in what he had to say, and she was distressed. Her face was red and she was uncomfortable in the situation.

Everybody in the metro knew what was going on, but nobody interfered. We (Jonathan and me) were wondering why she did not move seats, or why she did not tell him to move. I thought that if I was in her shoes I would just tell him that I am not interested in having a conversation with anyone. I was making up scenarious instead of doing something to help her.

We passed two stops and then, in an instant, another young woman got up from her seat, walked over to the blond, and started to talk with her as if they were friends, acting surprised to see her and speaking to her in a very loud voice...like they had not seen each other in a long, long time. She then asked the guy, very politely, to move and let her sit near her "friend".

For just a moment I almost believed that the two girls knew each other. She just took action and helped the blond girl. I admired this girl a lot!

"Where all think alike, no one thinks very much" Walter Lippman